If you switch churches, chances are good that you are going to feel adrift for a time. You might feel as though you don’t know anyone at the church and you haven’t quite found your niche yet. This can be an uncomfortable feeling. Luckily, if you have chosen a church that has a strong sense of community, you will be able to join that community relatively quickly if you follow these few simple tips.
1. Get Involved
Don’t just go into the church and sit the pews every Sunday or whatever church schedule works best for you. This is a great way to hear the liturgy but it’s a lousy way to actually get involved in the community itself. In order to fully join a community, you will need to actually get involved in the service that the church does. If the church runs a community meal once or twice a month, consider signing up for a short shift. If the church needs people to help organize their food drives or simply wants people to help clean up the church grounds, consider signing up for that ministry. Join the choir. See if you can act as an altar server. Do whatever you need to do in order to talk to more people than just the people you greet before the Sunday service.
2. Have People Over
Once you have a few friends and a few phone numbers, start having people over your house. It doesn’t matter how large or fancy your house is. Having people over is the ultimate sign that you trust them and and will encourage those you trust to give you trust in return. This is absolutely critical because you are more able to have deeper, more involved conversations with people at your house that might not happen within the church walls and can build a stronger sense of community.
3. Don’t Let Yourself Quit or Not Do It
Regardless of whether or you are having people over your house to read the Bible and eat a meal or going to a service opportunity, you want to be sure that you actually follow through on your commitment. It’s common for you to not feel like making this commitment, especially after a long day of work. However, if you are able to push through this resistance, you will often emerge from these experiences feeling as though your soul is refreshed and you are ready to take on the rest of the week.
To find your new religious community, talk to your local Christian church.